Who is in the Mirror?

Once upon a time, in a distant town, there lived a couple who loved each other dearly: Ayşe and Murat. They had very different personalities. Ayşe was a calm, understanding woman with a positive outlook on life, while Murat was ambitious and believed he was always right. Their marriage was seen as one of the most admired relationships in the town. Even though it seemed that way from the outside, there were some problems growing inside that were always covered up.

In the early years of their marriage, everything was beautiful. But over time, Murat's expectations of the marriage began to rise. He started to turn into a man who complained about everything day by day. He even began to expect Ayşe to do things he should be doing himself. He would find fault with everything Ayşe did. In every argument, he believed he was always right. He disregarded Ayşe's opinions and whenever a problem arose at home, he would immediately blame her, never giving her a chance to explain.

Ayşe was patient, but deep down, she was tired of Murat's attitude. Each time, she would think, "Maybe he will change over time," and she held onto hope. However, everything she hoped would change only seemed to worsen. Murat was someone who always saw himself as justified, and this made their marriage increasingly difficult.

They had an elderly neighbor who had recently moved to the town. This old woman offered wise advice to Ayşe about marriage and guided her through her challenges. The townspeople quickly grew fond of her, and everyone called her Aunt Pamuk. Ayşe wished for her husband to talk to Aunt Pamuk as well, but Murat never wanted to listen to anyone, as he always believed he was right. Yet, he was also aware that there were problems in their marriage. One day, after much insistence from Ayşe, he decided to visit the elderly woman.

Aunt Pamuk welcomed Murat warmly and offered him a cup of tea. They sat in silence for a while, and then the woman asked Murat, "How is life going? Are you happy?"

Without hesitation, Murat replied, "Of course, I'm happy. However, sometimes Ayşe doesn't understand me. That's why we have problems between us."

The elderly woman looked deeply into Murat's eyes and smiled, saying, "Marriage is a joint journey of two people. It is natural for both sides to make mistakes along this journey. However, the biggest mistake is not seeing those mistakes. It's easy to see your partner's faults, but the real challenge is to acknowledge your own."

Human beings look at the mirror for its concrete beauty. However, they should also be able to look at it abstractly and check it. Who is the person in the mirror? What kind of person is he? Does he have any mistakes and errors?

Because a person never wants to face himself.

A person does not want to see his own mistakes because he cannot divorce himself.

The old woman Murat asked the following question as she was leaving the door.

"Son, does a person ever want to live with himself?"

A person does not want to see the mistakes within themselves because they cannot divorce from themselves.

As Murat was leaving, the elderly woman asked him, "Son, does a person ever want to live with themselves?"

This sentence surprised and made Murat think. "Isn't it possible to live with me?" he pondered. When he returned home, the elderly woman's words echoed in his mind all night: “Son, does a person ever want to live with themselves?”

Until that moment, he had always believed he was right. The next morning, he looked in the mirror and began to question what kind of person he was. Before long, he found himself arguing with the person in the mirror. At that moment, he realized how difficult it was to understand oneself.

That night, Murat had a long conversation with Ayşe. For the first time, he made an effort to understand Ayşe’s feelings. He told her he realized his mistakes and wanted to change. This was a big surprise for Ayşe because she never expected Murat to take such a step.

As Murat began to see his faults, his relationship with Ayşe also transformed. He became more understanding and patient. Ayşe responded to Murat's change, and they started to listen to and understand each other better. Their love for each other grew stronger with each passing day. This opened a new chapter in their marriage. Together with Ayşe, they filled every line of this chapter with love and understanding.

The Experimental Design Teacing says: People have the right to change no one but themselves.

As long as a person does not want to change, no one can change anyone else. They must first desire to change themselves. And if you want someone to change, introduce them to themselves, for they may have never met before.

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